Causes of Infatuation
We all struggle through a very common situation where we misunderstand
infatuation as love. It is important to understand
infatuation before you make a commitment to such
relationship considering it as love. Infatuation
is the result of all the chemical action in your
body which results in true lust rather than true
love. Some of the underlying causes of infatuation
is discussed below:
1. Infatuation is a chemical reaction – You feel really excited when you
meet or talk to someone you are infatuated with.
It all starts in the dopamine center of your brain.
The excitement is because of the release of dopamine
hormone in your brain. The dopamine accumulates
when you think about your love interest. The feeling
makes you high for that person and often you take
it as real connection or love. Relationships built
on infatuation are very destructive and often takes
the time to realize that this is not your true
2. You like excitement – This needs to be understood because you cannot
fall in love on a regular basis different guys.
If you are with someone and you think it's love
but still you feel that there is a lack of excitement,
then you are struck with infatuation. You cannot
control heightened feelings of infatuations for
a long time. You get bored with the same person
and then you start looking for new drama or excitement
again in different person. This clearly shows that
you live for excitement and drama which cannot
be fulfilled by one person.
3. Sexual attraction – When you are sexually attracted to someone you tend
to ignore things that are not common between both
of you. You just concentrate on physical part because
you are infatuated with that person. You tend to
fantasize about the person and overpower the sexual
desire over other feelings. You realize about your
fault that it was not love after you get over that
4. You love to fall in love – We all agree that falling in love is a special
feeling and everyone deserves to be loved. The
feeling of falling in love for the first time or
anytime is same. However, when you are infatuated
with someone and feel it is your love then you
tend to ignore things that are alarming signals
about your decision because the feeling of love
makes you understand everything is right in love.
When you get over the infatuation, your feeling
for the person changes and you realize that you
are not in love anymore. This makes you go on hunting
for your new love interest for that same feeling
of love again.
5. You live in your own world – Infatuation makes you go crazy about the
person. You feel that he/she is perfect for you
and is flawless. Because of infatuation you like
spending time with the person and slowly you start
perceiving him/her as the right partner. You start
living in your own world with that person being
the center of attraction. You infatuate about the
person to an extent that you cannot concentrate
on your daily routine and you are stuck in your
own fantasy land. You start losing control because
your infatuation starts to become an obsession
instead of a real relationship.
6. You have to keep your search on – Relationship is not easy and it requires
a lot of time to confirm you about your true love.
There is a possibility that you infatuate about
someone and later he can become your partner because
you give him/her that time and patience which a
relationship or love demands. When you discover
that the person is trying to explore you emotionally,
slowly even you will make it work.